A couple of days ago as The Mr. headed out the door I asked him where he was headed for the day. “I’m going to pick up my mother and then I’m taking her to the slave office to order a new slave,” he answered. It was a joke, but the kind with a little bit of ironic truth to it. And it may surprise you to know it’s not the first time I’ve heard the word slave used to refer to (usually African) domestic workers.
According to Human Rights Watch, “More than 8 million migrants work in Saudi Arabia, comprising roughly one-third of its population. They fill critical gaps in the health, construction, and domestic service sectors, and also support their home economies, sending back US$15.6 billion in 2006, approximately 5 percent of Saudi Arabia’s gross domestic product.” A large portion of the migrant workers are domestic helpers, working as housemaids or drivers, and many Saudi households would cease to function without them. Massive homes would not get cleaned and women and children would not make it to work or school without the existence of these workers.
Maids and drivers here are the norm for the majority of families, but the line between employee and servant is all too often crossed, and not many people seem to have a problem with it. As with many other cases in Saudi, people believe that if they can afford to have something, they are entitled to have it, and do not believe that a limit should be set. Unfortunately this sense of entitlement can sometimes affect the way a domestic worker is treated by his or her sponsor family. Slavery was officially abolished in Saudi Arabia in 1962, but the mentality that people from certain areas of the world are practically created to serve those of privilege is widespread here.
Drivers spend hours each day ushering kids back and forth to school, tending to the garden, washing the family’s cars, and running errands, which I’m sure is exhausting work. But that doesn’t begin to compare to the work that many housemaids are forced to do. Her typical day may begin early in the morning with getting children up and ready for school, followed by detailed cleaning of the entire house, preparing lunch for the family, more cleaning, picking children up from school, helping with homework, laundry and ironing, getting children ready for bed, more cleaning, preparing endless cups of tea and coffee for the adults of the house, more cleaning. Her day never stops. Many maids are even forced to stay awake late into the night when their host family throws a party or hosts a gathering. She’ll serve guests, she’ll clean up the mess, and she’ll still have to wake up with the kids in the morning.
There are no labor laws in place to protect the rights of these workers, and in fact Saudi Labor Laws exclude them from such things as overtime pay and days off. There are no days off unless the host family is kind enough to give one, which is nearly unheard of. The workers cannot come and go as they please, and are often locked up in the house because the host family fears their escape and the loss of their investment in getting a maid into the Kingdom.
Other than the most common conditions, which I have described above, cases of physical, psychological, or emotional abuse are not unheard of. Rape and sexual assault also takes place, but is rarely if ever reported. Incomes are withheld and visits or calls to home are denied.
Perhaps the saddest thing of all is that these people know that they’re coming to a country that is supposedly an Islamic country. They may assume that their rights as humans will be protected and that they will not face racism, abuse, or injustice. Muslim workers come here and are mistreated by their Muslim host families. Even worse, non-Muslim workers often get the most disgusting introduction to Muslims and Islam imaginable.
Many people here will argue that a domestic worker knows what he or she is getting into when they agree to come here. They know that there are no days off, they know what their salary will be, and they’ve probably heard stories from friends or family members about how tough the conditions here are. People say that large amounts of money are spent to get these workers here, so they should be allowed to lock them up and refuse to let them out of the house. Many will say that if you’re too nice to your workers, they will take advantage of you. Many will insist that these workers come here with the intention to escape and make more money as black market workers or even pimps and prostitutes.
All of the above are certainly true, but it still doesn’t make the level of abuse and harsh working conditions justified. And I would counter those arguments and say that people who hire these workers also know what they’re getting into. The risk of having a stranger in your home, the risk of them running away, the risk of an inexperienced driver wrecking your car with your children in it, the risk of the underage nanny you hired not knowing how to properly care for your baby, the risk of your personal belongings being stolen, and the list goes on.
A quick Google search on Saudi Arabia + Maid will offer up dozens of stories of abuse committed by hosts and workers alike. We hear horror stories of maids going crazy and murdering children out of spite. We hear of theft, lying, cheating, black magic, and all sorts of other headaches that these people bring upon their host families. But one has to ask…why? What pushed them? Were they crazy to begin with (quite possible since Saudi Arabia doesn’t do a mental health screening before they get here) or were they driven to madness by the circumstances they were contracted into? And why can’t people here just clean their own homes, take care of their own children, and allow the women to drive themselves?
As with so many other backwards things in this country, the situation with domestic workers’ rights will never change until the Saudi people themselves get tired of the status quo and demand change. Considering the widespread laziness and entitlement among Saudis I’m sadly not optimistic about that change, however, and have added it to the bottom of a long list of things that I hope are improved in this place before my daughter grows up.
In the meantime, I hope that those of you reading who do benefit from the help of domestic workers will treat them with the same respect that you would want your family member treated with. Give them their rights according to Islam. Remember that they are humans with value, with families of their own, and with the same limits that you as an employer have. And if that is all too much to handle, do without their help.



Just a quick reply now from my iPhone so sorry in advance is there are any spelling mistakes! While unfortunately what you said about the conditions some domestic staff live in is true I think it’s unfair to generalise that ALL Saudi’s treat their staff badly. Also there are laws out there setting all te proper standards but the workers who are abused do not know their rights or do not have the means to contact the officials when needed. I think anyone coming to work in a house as part of the domestic staff should definitely think twice and make sure they do it through an agent that is legitimate.
Many countries have no made it mandatory to have proper contracts and a day of and decent wages for any citizen of their county coming to work here and they also require a reference (sush as the Philippines is doing now) which is wise. But just as you get the many abuse stories you have the storie of people being treated as family, living side by side even raising their own children (as happens in many of my families houses) within the same household.
Anyway, there is no excuse and its shameful what happens. It would be shameful if one Saudi did it let alone more. But we’re not all monsters and I’m sure you’ll agree there’s a list of good things as well as a list of bad. And we all have to start with our children am in the schools of we want te next generation of saudi’s to know that this is shameful, haram and unislamic.
I am not saying all Saudis. But it IS common. Way too common even. And unfortunately the government has spent too much time saying they’re going to reform or considering reform and not actually doing anything about it. Domestic workers do not know their rights, what little they may be, and even if they did, tell me how will they go to their abuser and ask for them? How will a woman living in a house as a servant get out of the house to seek government help? And who is there to protect her when her employees bring countercharges upon her? Even other Saudis are afraid of the influence that wealthy or well knows families have…how about that influence against the word of a lowly servant?
Certainly Saudis are not all monsters, and I don’t think I mentioned that. There are families here that treat their helpers like family. See the post I did called Conversations With a Housemaid for an example of the life enjoyed by the maid of my sister in law. But to take these instances only, and not to look at the bigger picture would be denying the truth and ignoring an opportunity to improve this country. And Saudi Arabia as a country and Saudis as a people need to stop saying “oh what a shame” and start advocating change.
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I totally agree that it’s not ok and it does happen way too often. And I didn’t say what a shame I said its shameful and must change. I’m not disagreeing with you at all on that point. And I also said in the comment that the issue is also that the maids Can’t get to the help they need. So we agree on all of that totally. I just wanted to state the laws are there but not enforced (like the law stating its illegal to not have your child in a car seat for example) and that I felt others would generalise based on this post only. I’m a huge fan of your blog and I know how highly you hold your Saudi in laws and I also know you have live and interacted with Saudis enough to know what you’re talking about but I responded based on what I thought people who haven’t lived here would get from it. I think a huge change need to happen in the way parents are raising their kids and I think countries should make it more difficult and impose more restrictions on their citizens workin here (like te Philippines has been doing). And finally the laws should be implemented! Then finally things will change! (Hope I’m still invite to the meet ups lol!)
Of course the invite still stands! Any time! Implementation is KEY!!! But if history has any indication of how things will go in the future, I’m worried. With this and a hundred other issues I, and you too I’m sure, could write books about.
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I forgot to add…If we look at how other countries handle the issue of domestic help, I think we could learn a few things. In other countries, maids come and go on a daily basis (and this doesn’t cost you quadruple the price, and it’s not illegal) helping the families keep up with daily chores. Nannies are trained and certified, making sure children are well taken care of. In the UAE for example, domestic workers are allowed to sponsor guests, so they are able to have visitation with family. My mother in law had a driver once whose family lived IN Riyadh, yet he wasn’t able to go and see them. And I didn’t even touch on how it is customary to take the passports of these people, and anyone sponsored by a Saudi for that matter, making their exit impossible unless their hosts are kind hearted and remember that they are humans, or they escape. At the end of the day, there’s a looong way to go to solving this issue, but step one is to own up to it.
This is very sad to read and yet I have read it time and time again from the kingdom. The fact that it could ever be normal to take the passport of an employee or give them [no] days off and really treat them as domestic slaves, that’s really what it is after all, is really really not ok. The fact that it is common means that it is worth talking about and that there is real TRUTH to these words even though I am sure everyones situation is different. You have to wonder how it is possible that people who live so strongly by traditions could forget the basic common decency of other human beings. It is 2013, and there is no use always hiding one’s head in the sand. In Italy there are many many maids and caretakers from other countries, Peru, Asia, Russia and if the job doesn’t work out [often the families here help pay for their visa and flight] the maid leaves and they always get at least two days off and are treated [with the most part] with respect! no hostage-taking necessary. Great post!
I myself always wonder how this place is full of tradition and overflowing with religion and supposedly religious people, but people can’t get their act together when it comes to basic human rights. It confounds me. Maids exist all over the world, and for sure there are injusices done worldwide, but the frequency with which injustice and abuse happens here is the issue. And I love your comparrison to hostage taking! Very accurate!
I also saw this article just come out today… http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-20959228
There are so many unfortunate factors surrounding the Rizana case. She was a minor with falsified documents, which happens all the time here. Standards for verifying the documents of incoming workers should be improved for sure. She wasn’t given a fair trial, and most domestic workers facing punishment here are not either. If they’re lucky, they’ll be given a pardon by the King, but Rizana wasn’t so lucky. Another issue is that people will willingly leave their children, their most precious gifts, in the care of virtual strangers without giving anything more than basic instructions. The fault lies partially with the parents in this case, if you ask me.
I’ve been reading about it and wow, just wow. I didn’t know you could be charged in an accidental death or do they think she tried to kill the baby? I was just going to say, is the desire of having cheap [slave like in many cases] labor more important to people than havign a trained qualified professional nanny? :/
I can’t answer that for you because I’d never DREAM of it. I had a qualified nanny in the states who would watch my daughter for a couple hours in the evening until I got off work, and I was STILL a nervous wreck. But this is also a place where even intelligent people don’t use child safety seats in the car, put children into cars with inexperienced drivers (alone, even), feed their kids all sorts of garbage, and the list goes on. I don’t know. I really don’t.
Sorry I have a lot to say about this aparently lol. I can’t tell you how many times I have has conversations with mothers who say they have to spy on their nannies and install cameras in their babies bedrooms and surprise the nanny by leaving the house then coming back and I always say WHY hire someone you are not sure can care for your child???!!! Get a proper nanny or don’t leave your child with someone you don’t trust. It’s shocking. Same with drivers who don’t know how to drive! I’ll stop hogging your board now.
You’re not hogging, no worries!!! I don’t get it either. The nanny situation is crazy. I have family members I wouldn’t trust with my child, nevermind a stranger. Oh, and the driver thing. I use my mother in law’s driver on occasion, and he’s nearly killed me so many times I’ve lost count. He’s been here 10 months…never drove a car before coming here…but still, his genitals make him more qualified to drive a car than my 15 years of driving experience. Go figure.
The latest story to come out… http://www.indianexpress.com/news/rajasthan-woman-taken-to-saudi-as-help–abused–wants-to-return/1057111/1
I totally agree with your post! I am in Canada for university now, but my family still lives in Jeddah, and I myself have lived there for a while. One of the most disturbing things I have ever seen happened at the food court in a mall. The table next to us had a large saudi family, more than 10 people, and they all sat there and enjoyed their meal for over an hour and a half, while the maid stood beside the table the entire time. No one offered her a meal for herself, or even a chair! The only time she moved from the table would be to get napkins, or to pick up food dropped by the kids. In the end my family and I got so fed up, i took a chair, and gave it to her, and demanded she sat down. The dad looked slightly embarrassed then, and said thank you in arabic. Such a disturbing experience. Like, is she NOT HUMAN? Does she not deserve at least a CHAIR if you are too inhumane to offer her FOOD? I cant imagine how she must have felt, having to stand up like that in public while everyone sat and ate. This is completely against Islam and against everything we as Muslims stand for. And dont even get me started on the numerous occasions i have seen a saudi woman hit or berate her maid in public, Absolutely disgusting. Saudi arabia has got to be THE most corrupted country I have ever visited. I am sure there are good people there, but you cannot deny that the level of corruption there is absolutely insane!
Sarah, I can’t even count how many times I’ve witnessed a scene similar to that. Maids waiting while the family enjoys a meal, sitting at different tables, beging given the leftovers after the family members have finished, etc. Not to mention what goes on inside homes…where maids are not allowed to eat off the same dishes as the family, are made to eat in a different room, etc. And in this place where food=love, and even strangers are willing to invite you for a meal or to share from the same plate, I don’t get why it doesn’t extend to domestic helpers. When family members send their maids over to my house to accompany children or to help me out with my massive load of cleaning, they’re treated as any other guest would be…and sadly, I find them shocked and hesitant to accept my courteous treatment. Yes, as you said, there are good people here…but that goodness doesn’t always extend to the help.
OMG the last comment from sarah baker broke my heart. Subhanallah how dare anyone treat another human being in that way. Do they think because they are Saudi or arab that they are special or better then others? DO they think they will not be asked on the day of resurrection how they treated this and that person.
I always wonder why muslims follow small parts of their religion and the rest they make up with their own mind. For example saudis are so anal about men and women intermingling with non mahrams but then we have female maids living inside the home free mingling with every single person in the family.
What about saudi women intermingling with male drivers ALONE in a car together..that perfectly fine rite but god help you if a saudi female was talking to a random saudi/arab male in a car by themselves ……………….ohhhhhhhh nooo what shame would that bring. So is a pakistani/asian male less of a man or less attractive then a saudi male? See this is the sick thing about it..the same as the domestic female workers..most saudi women are all for asian maids but god help them if anyone suggested a russian maid lets say..there would be burning bra’s lol jks? why is that…are asian women less attractive or less womanly then lets say russian or moroccan women??? Why has Islam been forgotten when it comes these topics?
When you start to really analyse the way people think in the gulf region it is quite morally corrupt.
Just a quick reminder i don’t believe all saudis or arabs are this way but its a majority which is why the topic needs to be discussed so thanks UTA. Gotta love ure thought provoking posts.
To put it very simply, these people are seen as less human. Does that make sense? Of course, this doesn’t apply to everyone here…but there is an overwhelming amount of blatant racism here toward people of certain nationalities/ethnicities. It is normal. It is expected. It is absolutely disgusting. People don’t mind (and the governement overlooks) Asian housemaids in the home with unrelated males because they are not equal to their host families. It’s no big deal for wives and daughters to be alone in the car with not only unrelated men, but those who are STRANGERS, because they’re not quite as human. There’s no other way to describe it and there is no possible way that someone can excuse it. I could get arrested for meeing a male friend for coffee or lunch, but it’s completely kosher for me to spend hours each week alone in the car with a driver. Once a Saudi friend of mine here was telling me how her parents got upset with her because she wouldn’t cover her face in front of some workers in the house. Her excuse was “they’re not really men”. I cannot make this stuff up.
I don’t know if you heard about when Moroccan women were approved to be brought as maids, but people lost their minds over that topic! Because a Moroccan woman is more of a threat than an Indonesian or Filipina.
I’m beginning to learn that Islam is not really a religion here, but rather a system of controlling people.
OMG WTH…it seems they live on a different planet…like do they seriously lack common sense? I don’t think i would be able to handle such hypocrisy and unfairness..how on earth do you do it girl? Like when you friend told you how her parents were mad at her for uncovering her face to workers cos she didn’t see them as “real” men…what do u even say to that? thats like a sickness in someones heart.
I think this situation may be getting worst only because all the kids that grew up from being taken care of by maids are becoming adults and so the cycle will continue.
Why is saudi seen as such a kids loving and family oriented society when many mums don’t even do their jobs. wouldn’t a mother feel jealous of another women coming in to do her job for her own child and possibly loose a bond or loose quality time with their kid?? so frustrating….so backwards so ignorant the way that they think.
“Many people here will argue that a domestic worker knows what he or she is getting into when they agree to come here.”
I doubt most workers know the worst that could happen. What Saudi Arabia should do is include domestic help in labor laws.
Saudi Arabia isn’t alone in worker mistreatment. I would suggest anyone here to read about immigrant farm workers in the US. It is only in the last 50 years that laws have begun to be enforced. There are still many cases where underage children are working in the US in dangerous jobs or in jobs where they are essentially unpaid.
Hi
I was browsing the internet and I came across your blog. I have browsed it with a great interest. This topic attarcted me cz i care alot about this issue. Well, your topic looked at the issue from one side only. It is clear from the title that you merly focused on the negative aspects which do exist in all countries in different ways. First, I have never ever heard someone calling the maid ” slave” . The thing is treating others regardless of thier role dependes on the level of education of the family members and on how those members were raised up.
You talked about the negativity of treating maid in saudi arabia, well I am gonna mention few things about the positive sides of the same issue.
Have u ever heard that a family supports their helper to build a home in her country? My sister helped her maid to build a house in Sri Lanka??
Have you heard that many saudi families paid thousands for their maid to do pligrimage?
Have you heard that many saudi families treat their maid as family member?
Have you heard that many saudi families buy gifts for thier maid in Eid ” special occasions” and clothes as well?
Have you heard that many saudi families buy mobile phones for thier maid?
have you heard that many many saudi families buy tickets for thier maid although it is not their responsibilty?
Have you heard that there maids who saty with some saudi families for 15 years or could be more?
And the list of questions go on.
If u answer those questions, you will realize you did generalize.
Regards
Nawal
Hi there and thanks for taking the time to comment. No doubt there are families here who treat their workers well and even as family. As I mentioned above to Mama B, I did a post a while back about it. Yes, the workers here (if they are paid fairly and on time) do have the chance to send money back home to care for their families, and no doubt that is a great blessing for those families. The silver lining of the domestic worker issue shouldn’t allow us to overlook the major problems it involves. Yes, there are nice families, but there are also not so nice ones, and we can’t look at the good without being aware of the bad. As you probably know, these things aren’t very popular in the media here so I’m doing my part to get the word out on what I see as a serious issue.
I disagree with you that the treatment of workers depends on the education of the family members. Even highly educated, well respected families can and do mistreat their employees.
To be clear, I have no issue with people who hire maids and drivers for their families. The issue I have is with the treatment they are often given, which is highly overlooked and excused by not only the government, but Saudis themselves.
Hey, i am now reading fot hours your blogs, thank you. I came to you via a spanish newspaper where i read an artikel about this poor little girl and this bastard of a father. Because my spanish is not 100% ( i am german) i thought i mixed something. I was searching with google and came to the saudi women blog there i read your comment over women and children rights in Saudi and i was curious about you……We have had a lot of artikel in our press about the treatmen of housmaids . There was a video in El Pais showing the beheading of this poor young women. I did it to me …. even it costed and will cost sleepless nights ,,,,, The most horrifying was how men where running to that place to watch it ,,,,,,the lonelyness of this girl ….no one helped her …. could help her….they put a nice song on it, in arabic and dutch (my husband is dutch) so i could understand it ,,,the text was very emotional and tryed to show her last feelings and thoughts. Though be aware in europe we watch wath happens in the kingdom and other countries . There are special offices in the EU that try to help, but with saudi ariabia its most of the time useless…I hope i did not mess up your day ….. greeting from spain angelika
saudi people need to learn to treat people with respect – that would half of the rent.
All people need to treat all other people with respect. The problem is not just with Saudis, even western families have and mistreat maids here, but the lack of laws and rights for foreign workers is the real problem. It is too easy to get away with it here.
It is true that families in Saudi really relies on maids on taking care of the house (cleaning, tiding up …etc) and from my perspective I see there is no problem with that and actually I think it’s an opportunity for those who come from a poorer country to work in Saudi to make a living and survive . However , not more than that .
Many families treat those people so bad , it is pure discrimination and actually when I show sympathy to them I get laughed at !!! . I mean the treatment is so harsh I myself can’t stand it .
they are really isolated from the family , sometimes they work from the morning till late night non-stop. and when I say harsh I don’t mean physically but psychologically.
Having lived and still living far from my family, I can realise how they feel . However, their pain is even more as they are far, poor and looked at as less.
People got to realise that they are humans just like them , and they have feelings and families . we should start to improve their wellbeing simply by chatting with them, be friends with them after all they are looking after the house and making your life much easier.
We must do that , anyways even Islam have these kindness perspectives so why not paying attention to these instead of some senseless subjects.
of course not all are bad and not all are good , and hopefully those poor workers get respected as normal human beings ! . And really a smile would really make difference , so we should try to do so!.
Thanks U.T.A,
x
Just curious, Maha…are you Saudi?
I’m from everywhere my friend
, joking . Although I am Saudi Arabian, I seriously feel a sense of belonging to each city I lived in and not just Saudi Arabia. Each influenced me in a way.
I lived for 4 years in the “United States,Virginia” as a child .
And lived in “Dublin,Ireland ” almost for a year and a half .
And moved to the “United Kingdom” 4 month ago . Planning to stay their for a while, for achieving a Master degree hopefully and some career experience purposes.
and last but not least , you are always more than welcome to ask Dear .
Adiós .
x
Hi..just came across this article and it’s Great, thanks. I happen to be working here for 1 year 9months as a housemaid and i’d rate my stay as good. What you have outlined above is quite the norm for some of us (housemaids) working here. I Have experienced harsh and vulgour words, working under sunny, hot and dusty areas, eating expired food and drinks, sleeping an empty stomach among many other situations. Before coming here, I gave out my CV and i was assured that getting job by my qualifications was easy in Saudi Arabia. I was shocked to land here and my employer asking for my passport besides no greetings wasoever. This scared me for it wasn’t my expectation bearing in mind what the agent had told us. To cut the story short, it would be quite an honour and a pleasure on behalf of other housemaids and others to yet come work here that you provide condusive environments for us to serve you. Many of us just don’t know what we’re entitled to and we somewhow have to keep it inside ourselves. Further more, whatever task you submit it is always done so- a simple gratitude followed with a smile is not costly for us. We’re human and we have feelings too.
Savannah, Thank you for so eloquently sharing your story, and I’m so sorry for what you’ve had to endure working here. I agree that better environments are needed and your rights as a housemaid should be made known to you and supported before you ever even set foot in this country.
Have you been able to make friends or contacts with others while you’ve been working here? Do you have a support system and people to talk to? Are you given the chance to have contact with your family back home? I’d love to hear more about your situation.
You’re right but agents are to blame because they lie about the working situations in this place. It’s a shame my 2 yr contract is due and haven’t made any friends here. I tried but due to my role here, they couldn’t talk to me because they considered me worthless by spitting once I showed the sign and so I let it go. God has been kind and have met a very kind woman who understands ‘this whole thing’ and she has been very supportive. The family have been working for has lately been kind and respectful as well. Have no problem with communication back home for this woman has made it easier and am grateful. It’s a pleasure chatting with you.
wow. I can’t believe how open you are about these topics. I have seen these things everyday but I fear to blog about these things that I might get fired from my job in Saudi and exported out of the country. I really admire your courage. Thanks for sharing.